Monday, 26 June 2017

My private part!

I never knew I would be sharing this, its 2am and I am still up,could be because I have a lot on my mind or because its too chilly ; although I think its the former.
A lot of things are going through my mind viz: forgiveness,domestic violence, moving on.
Where do I begin from? not to bore you with the details but am glad a lot of people are speaking up about violence at home and unapologetically so but I must add that others have suffered such from family members for whatever reason. I have been at the receiving end and I know how deep it goes,the trauma, the pain the tears and that overwhelming feeling when you hit rock bottom. I have had my own fair share of the cake with lots of icing too.
For years I have carried my feelings about in a box right next to the pain and hurt. For years I have been driven and determined to be successful just so that I can prove a point. Not that I am giving up on my pursuit of success but I do not want it to be from a place of hurt and with the intention to revenge anymore. I must forgive myself for being too hard on me,often times I had tried to just say I forgive and expect that the memory is wiped clean,when it doesn't happen that way am dissapointed, does that happen to you? Well Forgiveness is a process,it takes time ( one step at a time) its not a button that is turned on and off at will.
Life is a long journey,baggage will only slow us down.  free yourself to live a purposeful life.
 Why am I sharing this, to move on we must shed the pain,ugly experiences and choose to be more. If one person can feel better or be touched after reading this then the aim is fulfilled. That good paying job,that business,that ambition should not be to prove a point or get a revenge on those who drove you to the lowest point of your life,the hurt doesn't have to be your driving factor. Do great things for you and those who love you,the past is past and should remain there. Tomorrow is a brighter and better day with new possibilities.

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Friday, 23 June 2017

#Life lately: EP9 7 months later,how I survived!

Good morning darlings!what have you been up to? Lately I have been reminiscing on my experience 7 months ago and what I went through Here   and Here
It wasn't what I expected but I can say that I have adjusted pretty well.
So my place of work is located in a village which I think is quite thoughtful of the government so that they have access to quality healthcare and don't get left out of development.
Problem is there is hardly light,haven't been for the past 3 weeks and you have to walk some distance to fetch water. The closest market is about 45 minutes away even that does not have all that you need.
I can't believe I have been here for 7 whole  months already.
 I can remember cancelling out each day from my calendar, counting down to the end of this programme.  Goodness! How time flies!
I actually came unprepared and I feel obligated to give you tips on how to survive if you get posted to such place for service,job or whatever.

1.Rechargeables are non negotiable. Light is a luxury so be prepared! need a laptop. While  televisions  are cool, you need light to be able to watch it but once you can charge your laptop you are good , at least until the battery goes off then you are back to square1

3. You need a bestie,or two. You see this is not the kind of place where you fly solo because you will be bored out of your mind. A few good friends to gist and hang out with will make it easier to endure.

4. You need to have lots of money in your pocket. Yo would  expect that since you are going there to work you will survive with your salary, well we all thought so until we were hit by the harsh reality of the country we live in. First of all from my experience I spent a whooping sum trying to make it "livable" and then the salary didn't come as expected until much later when we were almost eating grass. So make sure you have enough stacked in case of eventualities.

5. Be sure to fleet the entire house with insecticide after cleaning, before you move in, very important!

6. Keep the porshness  away it won't do you any good. You can't be in Rome and be acting like a Ghanian ko le werk!

7.Get acquainted
I had a cab man who gave me a sort of orientation about where not to go at certain times, where to hold my purse tight. What kind of people lived where and how to blend in and that was quite helpful. Study your environment.

 With these few points of mine I hope I have been able to convince NYSC that I have payed my dues hence should be posted someone fancy for my service while also getting you prepared in case you find yourself someone similar.
I hope this helps you start your day on a beautiful note.

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Top 5 fun ways to spend the weekend!

With the weekend and public holiday ahead of us, must be nice to do something fun don't you think? Got any plans yet? I have taken the time to bring right to your door step 5  fun things to do to make the best out of your break.

1. See a movie
If you have a cinema in your town this could be a really cool way to catch up with friends and have fun. If I were in Abuja i would definitely use this opportunity to see Isoken and 10 days in sun city. unfortunately there is no cinema in my city phewwww!!!! Please who else is in Enugu and isn't finding this funny at all? Signify by leaving me a comment below.

2.Go sight seeing
You could go somewhere you havnt been in your city or you could travel if you can. In Enugu I will surely recommend Nike lake resort. Its  absolutely beautiful,natural and the best part you don't get charged a dine to go in. I did a review on it Here You could have a picnic or just enjoy the beautiful sight.

3. Make something new
This is also an oppourtunity to connectvto your inner chef.
The kitchen is my laboratory, at my free time I like to make something new,I source for recipes online and I have fun bringing them to life.

4 read a motivational book
This not only keeps you occupied, it motivates you. My favourite of all times is "How to get from where you are to where you want to be " I did a review on it Here

If there is an opportunity to volunteer do well to avail yourself of the oppourtunity you will feel good afterwards.

What's your plan for the holiday?

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HONEST PRODUCT REVIEW//say hello to 24/7 flawless makeup with sephora flawless matte primer

It wasn't love at first sight, but when i  took that leap of faith to try it, my heart melted and I haven't looked back after that.
Fast forward to 5 months ago, I was that girl that walked about with a handfan and a handtowel in my pocket always. Why? Because I can  sweat for africa.
For someone whose job keeps her on her feet moving from one point to another the whole day, it was pretty worrisome and embarassing especially when I  have to put up with questions like
Why are you sweating?
 is it this small sample you are taking that is making you sweat like this?
I had used 2 different primers that even made it worse for me until I came across the sephora flawless matte primer. I had gone to the shop for something else and somehow after talking to the cosmetologist about my ordeal he handed this to me. I was very quick to say a big No at first, can you blame me? I had tried other products and I was DONE!
After much persuasion I reluctantly decided to give it one more shot.
The first day I used it I didn't see much improvement maybe because I had the mindset that it was going to be like others and I would toss it aside after a while. But subsequently it started working wonders.
I got mine for #2500 which I think is quite affordable.
I apply a little on my hand and massage into my face,leave for about 10 mins before applying my makeup
It gives me a finer and smoother base for my makeup and keeps my face dry and my makeup intact all through the day.
I knew i was inlove with this product when it dawned on me that I couldnt remember the last time I went to work with a handtowel. I dont sweat half as much as i used to, my face is dry all day and my makeup doesn't get messy halfway into the day any longer
Sephora is bae!
Are you struggling with your makeup getting messy due to excessive sweating or your oily skin?
Have you tried this product?
Please leave me a comment below I would love to hear your thoughts

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Saturday, 17 June 2017


I couldn't resist  putting up this post because as cliché as it may sound,we can never get enough of good advice. While there are so many rules,guidelines and keys to building and sustaining a relationship. you need to have the following points encoded in your DNA if you are still single and genuinely want the "happily ever after"

1.You need to get out more , no one is going to see how awesome you are if you are always stuck in your comfort zone.

2. Know what you want. You can't be guessing or let the wind throw you where ever it pleases. Get it together, define what you want and go for it.

3. How is your personal hygiene? Always put yourself in the other person's shoes; would you want to come close to you if you were the other person? If yoou sweat a lot have your bath at least twice a day and use deodorants,check your breathe too,very important.

4.Smile more, Its totally free, it makes you appear more friendly and approachable can't make all that money and not spend it on yourself. I don't care if you are saving to build a mansion if you can't be nice to yourself with your hard earned money then its not worth it.

6.Don't be too quick to turn down love advances, at least give it a thought.

7.Don't go sliding into anyone's DM. It may have worked for some but you have 90% chance of regretting it. Its so uncool for a lady. You can drop a hint but never make it look like you are the one chasing

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Friday, 16 June 2017

The TRUTH about my 1st month in paediatrics!

Hey guys!  I promised in my last post to take you through what I have learnt in my first month in Paediatrics department and I haven't forgotten.
 So I got posted to nephrology unit which happens to be the busiest,which is both good and bad  depending on how you look at it.
 OK let's dive right into it shall we? So in no particular order here we go.

1. Word to the wise, If you don't like keeping vigil or having people  wake you up late at night please don't even bother about paediatrics.Most days when am on night call ,i don't sleep all through, reason being that their is always something to do. Whenever there is a critical case you have no business with sleep for that day.

2.The loud,high pitched piercing cry that can even deafen an already deaf man are a constant in the paediatric ward, It's more annoying when you have to deal with that at night.
Good thing is with time you will get so used to it that it will be like music to your ears trust me.

3. I have been perfecting my kid friendly language and accent.This one kid keeps looking at me like
 " what is wrong with this one" 
and the last time I give him a pen and paper to write just so I can do a quick examination and he threw it in my face like "ogbeni don't bribe me jooorrrr"

4.When a child is sick it takes a toll on the parents. It can either bring the family together or tear them apart which most often is the case. Most  mothers nursing a sick child get really frustated and  take it out on the the husbands,doctors and the nurses. When dealing with such people, patience and understanding is key.

5.Money is very well important, I mean very very very important. In this recession nobody is giving out free "anything".The hospital has helped in the past but such patients absconded blocking the way for others.
I will not say outrightly that you must marry rich or that you have to have so much money before getting married, but please before babies start coming into the mix make sure there is a reasonable amount of money stashed for emergencies.

6.You never stop reading as a paediatrician, there is so much to know,you don't  come for ward round unprepared. Questions will be asked and you don't want to look stupid before your patients.

7. With good food, immunisation,good hygiene and environmental sanitation kids are less likely to fall sick.

8. Life generally is unfair you get what you get and make the best of it. If you disagree then can you explain to me why a 6 year old should be suffering from cancer?.....Life!

9. In all I think kids are adorable I love them am excited when I see them in the morning especially the ward president chidera ( 2 years old) . kid is as lively and playful as they come. We call him that because he has stayed longer than all the other kids, though he has being discharged his mum has refused to go.

10. Will I want to be a paediatrician? still thinking about it!

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Thursday, 15 June 2017

The kids and I

are looking up way better than my first week in paediatrics department and even though am not totally loving it just yet,it feels way better than how I felt the first week.
So this kid keeps crying whenever I come close to his bed for anything and I can see him giving me the side eye whilst clutching tightly to his mum's bossom.  Hmmmmm!!!! I think I need a new look, maybe a new hairdo.
Its always so cute when you run into them in the clinic after they have been discharged and they give you that big hug like" now we can be friends"
.......... Kids! So adorable!
Am still thinking about where to specialise really, paediatrics is calling but mehnnn!!! Can I deal with the stress? hmmmm!!! Kids are not exactly the easiest to manage, sometimes all you want to do is listen to their chest but then all hell breaks loose And then comes the yelling!!!
 Aside being uncooperative about the simplest things, you have to be extremely careful as all the drugs and fluids are tailored to each child's specification.
I have being in the unit for about a month now and I have learnt quite a lot which I will be sharing in my next post so keep thy fingers crossed. One thing for sure is "I love being around  kids doesn't equal I should be a paediatrician".

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Monday, 5 June 2017

Dear Zenith Bank!

I woke up this morning after a laid back,peaceful night call/duty( such calls are not easy to come by)and the first thing I saw was an alert from Zenith bank.
Credit alert right!!!!What a way to start the  week, I was excited!
 been waiting for that alert like kilode.
 I opened the message and much to my greatest displeasure
 the content wasn't sexy at allllllll
It was a debit alert for monthly MasterCard fee or something.....(this early morning?....ha!)
All these annoy me to no end, upholstery fee,service charge,e.t.c
  on top the small money am just saving in your bank ni?
kuku collect everything.
If not for their wonderful customer service and how reliable they are( which is why i love my bank) i would have reverted back to the old days; dig a hole and save my money there, at least I will not pay service charge, what do you think?
They cannot even surprise someone for once and say take this bonus for being a good customer or take this #50k as we celebrate customers appreciation day or even take this #5000 for your transport fare to our bank because we value the space your account occupies on our database ( rolls eye) .......yelz!
I cannot even keep calm about how the hospital generator was on all through yesterday, I mean from morning till the next morning! Big deal!
If you are "in the abroad" you will not understand. Putting on the generator all through the day is a big step up even if its just for one day and that kind of upgrade should be commended.
OK shift over! Time to get ready for work again because "na the work wey we dey do"
Have a blessed and successful week darlings.

"If you can think it then you can make it happen"

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Saturday, 3 June 2017

What life has taught me #1: Trust your gut!

Kisses my darlings! How was your night?
Awesome?.......yeah! I thought as much,you  You know what they say about being away from a loved one right? the heart will not rest until its back to its love, well i missed this space and missed you all too.
  (covers face)
 Consistency is definitely top of my list for this month.
In between carrying a consult to the paediatric surgeons on call from one end of the department to another And the team avoiding it like a plague and having to dodge being asked for money for the umpteenth time, I had some time to reflect and long story short I came up with the idea for this blog post.
You see, Life is a school( don't ask me if its a grade school,high school or college) we make mistakes and we learn everyday.
In my twenty something years in this institution I have learnt some valuable lessons that sometimes I wish I can rewind and start all over again, with what I know now I will be on fire! 
I know a lot of teenagers and young adults read my blog hence I will be sharing lessons that will help you be better informed,take wiser decisions so we can all be great together.I decided to make it one lesson per post so  it doesnt get too long and we can easily digest the information.Is that OK?
1. Trust your gut! Don't be a push over
Hmmmmm!!!! Where do I even begin?
I mean this is the most important of them all because its the foundation for a lot of other things.
Have you had people make jokes at you for wanting to be more? well I have and my mistake was I let it get to me and in the long run I realised that I was on the right track to making a huge difference and achieving awesome things but "I chickened out" because other people's opinions mattered instead of trusting my instinct.
If you are passionate about something you really want to do,dont go about asking for people's approval because guess wgat you are more likeky to be discouraged than encouraged.... true story!
just do your research and get to work already. What's the worst that can happen ?you don't hit your target or according to society you fail......pick your self up and keep it moving eventually you will get thereand you will be glad you didnt give up not to mention the knowledge you would have acquired on the journey.
Don't be scared to set a trend,don't be scared to try new things.
Some people are born leaders,they lead and others follow don't make yourself a follower when you are a leader.
Even when its not making sense just trust the process and keep pushing. Occasional re-evaluation, little adjustments here and there and you are good.
Its not as easy as it sounds trust me I understand but if you persist you will be glad you did.

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