OK now am sharing this because the better informed we are the less likely we are to make unnecessary mistakes or embark on prayer and fasting for something God has put in our hands.
Have you ever wondered while "bad girls" get it all and "good girls"are left on the side walk?
I grew up seeing things like this happen,aunties who were having a hard time getting hitched or staying married even though they were the whole package. Well the reason is not far fetched it's just one of those truths we are so scared to admit. it's not enough to be a good girl, it's not enough to be homely, it's not enough to be churchy if you want to keep that man you need to borrow a leaf or two from Kim Kardashian.
I know someone is already judging but let me explain before you crucify me. Men are visual creatures, they are moved by what they see and most often than not they are controlled by what they see. Even for the most religious of them. Instead of blaming God for things not working out for you despite your being a "good girl" you need to wake up and Splash some reality on your face And realise that you can fix this if only you follow the rules
1.How you look is more important than you think. When a man sees a lady the first thing he notices is how she looks, that will either prompt him to talk to her or just keep it moving. Am a very conservative dresser especially when am at work but that doesn't stop you from flaunting your endowment. Flaunt your figure, tease a little Mind you I didn't say dress half naked. Just don't be boring look great, get your hair nails and all together the idea is to create a balance ,am sureyou know what I mean.
2Leaarn how to flirt, and Use body language to communicate. You see, some of us are so damn good we think this is the trademark of a prostitute. Well newsflash! this is 2016 and it's a "must-have skill" for single ladies and married women as well. If you are new to this don't fret, every information you need is right there on the internet. Learn to smile even if you have to start practicing in front of the mirror till you get it right it's a secret weapon to a man's heart.
3. Don't be the kind of woman who flaunts it in his face that you are "miss independent" or miss " I can do bad all by myself" nothing irks a good man more than thatttitude.Only one who is hoping to sponge off of you will stick around for that. If you want to be miss Independent" that's cool but learn to separate it from your relationship.
4.Be soft and tender,you cannot be struggling for power and authority with your man all the time reason is if he is the very vocal type you will be quarrelling a lot but if he is on the quiet side he will simply ignore you, you might not even realise that all is not well until the worst happens.Learn to talk to him with respect and in a calm tone.
5.you should be his biggest fan, we talk alot about what we want him to do for us how about showing him how to treat you by treating him the same way, be his peace, be his friend, be his partner. Appreciate him with your words and deeds let his friends and yours see how much you love him be there for him treat him like he is the best thing that ever happened to you.
6.socialize!socialize!socialize growing up I was a geek,I always locked myself in the room with my books while that worked for me I would want my daughters to be more sociable, it doesn't have to interfere with achieving your life's goals as long as you balance it. Get out there attend weddings, birthdays, games, events especially those places where you can meet the endangered specie ( decent, responsible, God-fearing, Comfortable seriousminded guys) hang out
6. Learn how to be his woman in bed yeah an saying it like it is I don't advocate for premarital sex so am saying this in the context of marriage, don't get sloppy keep yourself updated shower before going to bed make sure your hairnet is not smelly because these are mood killers be open to new things. This is in addition to other things like being a good cook and homemaker And all.
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